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I bet alot here have.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...onishing-true-Here-brave-men-confess-all.html
When his girlfriend cuddled up one night and began to initiate love-making, the truth was Tom Stevenson wasn't really in the mood.
He was tired and would have preferred an early night. Reluctant to disappoint, though, Tom accepted her advances and hoped her passion would ignite his flagging desire.
He quickly realised it wasn't working, but rather than tell her he wanted to stop, he chose a more extreme course of action.
'I faked an orgasm,' Tom, an account executive from London, admits. 'I have quite a high sex drive, so am usually in the mood - but this time I was knackered.
'It was the first time I'd ever faked it and it felt like a strange thing to do, but it was the only way I could think to bring things to an end without hurting her feelings.'
Who can forget the famous scene in the film When Harry Met Sally when Sally brings a cafe to a standstill as she pretends to have an orgasm to prove that men can't tell the difference between true ecstasy and phony passion? Significantly, you don't see Harry following suit, perhaps because while the concept of women faking is a common one, until now it's always been assumed that men never feign orgasm.
However, a new book by a Harvard urology professor suggests that increasing numbers of men are - like Tom - faking it. Dr Abraham Morgentaler's findings are backed up by a recent study from the University of Kansas in which a quarter of men admitted faking orgasms.
Meanwhile, men's website Askmen.com's 2012 survey of 2,000 men found that 34 per cent admitted faking it, up from 17 per cent in 2010. Shattering the myth that men never simulate a climax, Dr Morgentaler's book Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men And Sex - which draws on his 25 years of experience treating men's sexual problems - reveals some other surprising truths.
Dr Morgentaler claims men aren't always 'up for it', as is commonly assumed; but often feel compelled to perform. 'Believe it or not, sometimes it is the man who declines an invitation for sex,' he says. Tom agrees it's taboo for men to admit when they aren't in the mood for intimacy
'While it's OK for a woman to say she's too tired to make love, or has a headache - in fact it's so common there are jokes about it - it's not acceptable for men,' he says.
'The image is that men are always up for sex, which makes you feel under pressure to perform even when you don't want to.'
Secondly, men aren't selfish lovers concerned only with their own pleasure - as is so often depicted in films and books. According to Dr Morgentaler, they are, in fact, often more concerned with wanting to please their partners than themselves - and that's a key reason why men pretend to climax.
Anyway guys the article is longer. Just found it a fascinatingly taboo topic of discussion.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...onishing-true-Here-brave-men-confess-all.html
When his girlfriend cuddled up one night and began to initiate love-making, the truth was Tom Stevenson wasn't really in the mood.
He was tired and would have preferred an early night. Reluctant to disappoint, though, Tom accepted her advances and hoped her passion would ignite his flagging desire.
He quickly realised it wasn't working, but rather than tell her he wanted to stop, he chose a more extreme course of action.
'I faked an orgasm,' Tom, an account executive from London, admits. 'I have quite a high sex drive, so am usually in the mood - but this time I was knackered.
'It was the first time I'd ever faked it and it felt like a strange thing to do, but it was the only way I could think to bring things to an end without hurting her feelings.'
Who can forget the famous scene in the film When Harry Met Sally when Sally brings a cafe to a standstill as she pretends to have an orgasm to prove that men can't tell the difference between true ecstasy and phony passion? Significantly, you don't see Harry following suit, perhaps because while the concept of women faking is a common one, until now it's always been assumed that men never feign orgasm.
However, a new book by a Harvard urology professor suggests that increasing numbers of men are - like Tom - faking it. Dr Abraham Morgentaler's findings are backed up by a recent study from the University of Kansas in which a quarter of men admitted faking orgasms.
Meanwhile, men's website Askmen.com's 2012 survey of 2,000 men found that 34 per cent admitted faking it, up from 17 per cent in 2010. Shattering the myth that men never simulate a climax, Dr Morgentaler's book Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men And Sex - which draws on his 25 years of experience treating men's sexual problems - reveals some other surprising truths.
Dr Morgentaler claims men aren't always 'up for it', as is commonly assumed; but often feel compelled to perform. 'Believe it or not, sometimes it is the man who declines an invitation for sex,' he says. Tom agrees it's taboo for men to admit when they aren't in the mood for intimacy
'While it's OK for a woman to say she's too tired to make love, or has a headache - in fact it's so common there are jokes about it - it's not acceptable for men,' he says.
'The image is that men are always up for sex, which makes you feel under pressure to perform even when you don't want to.'
Secondly, men aren't selfish lovers concerned only with their own pleasure - as is so often depicted in films and books. According to Dr Morgentaler, they are, in fact, often more concerned with wanting to please their partners than themselves - and that's a key reason why men pretend to climax.
Anyway guys the article is longer. Just found it a fascinatingly taboo topic of discussion.
